Medford's Special Education fails some children

I have been advocating for my son for 16 years; 13 of them involving special education.  What still baffles me is when I see that the district (usually with a student who is placed in or out of the district) fail to give necessary and needed services to students with disabilities.  The game they play is this (and it is a game that wastes money, time and most of all-wastes time of the child who should be utilizing and being provided these services; especially where they are areas of need.  So here's the game:  Parent tells school child needs xyz..school replies: 'No". Parent is now forced to get all kinds of recent and past testings together along with the specialists who provided/tested them. (cha ching).  Parent shows school district child is failing or in need of xyz.  Schools reply:  "no".  Okay, now parent has to go to mediation (which, in my opinion is a waste of time).  Nothing gets resolved.  Usually the hearing officer sides with the district anyways.  Surprised?  Who hires them?  Exactly.  The board of education.  Now parent has to hire an attorney (cha ching) and file a complaint through BSEA-the bureau of special education appeals.  About 2-3 months has now passed and then when it comes closer to the date,,,the school district will "delay and postpone" the hearing.  Are you getting my point of "DELAY"?  Who suffers but the child.  Child continues to struggle and regress, although the district will  point out 'any other area where they are making 'gains'!  Yep..around and round we go.  CHa ching!  Medford -like a lot of other school districts- would rather spend their money wasting time at the expense of the child's education and on their attorney rather than giving the child what they need in the first place.  Now comes the day before the hearing.  Guess who calls the parent?  Their out of pocket paid attorney.  Guess what he's says? (one of two scenarios) (1) District attorney has called and wants to 'settle' and give child the services they need, but that means that parent will NOT be able to sue district for what they paid out to their attorney.  (see how this works?)..but now about 6-9 months have passed.  Yes..you read that right so what has happened?  The child loses out on an ENTIRE YEAR of services that could have been provided.  Scenario (2).  Attorney calls and asks if you, the parent, are ready for hearing?  Yep, have expert testimony from child's personal providers (oh yeah, cha ching-to get them to come to the hearing and testify), all testings, progress reports, updated scores, etc.  Then, the people who call the members of the child's collaborative programming 
"A Team"...are really NOT a team-in which you were and are always supposed to be included in".  Now you are sitting across from "the team" and you are on the opposite sides of 'the team'-that you were once thought to have been a part of.  Now you're paying for not only your attorney's time, but for your evaluators time.  Isn't this fun?  I haven't gotten to the best part:  Now this hearing and testimony could go on for daaaays.  Cha ching!  In the end, the parent is exhausted, broke and the child has regressed and not been provided a FAPE-free appropriate public education.  The district?  They've now used thousands of dollars just because they didn't want to provide your child a FAPE.  Disgusting, and it's very real.  Why does it have to be this way?  Just ask any special education director and/or superintendent.  While your at it, ask them the question:  "don't you want to see my child succeed?"  and see what answer they give you.