Have You Reviewed with Your Children What to Do in 'Danger' Scenarios? Should You?

A week after the Newtown, CT, massacre, schools have reviewed their safety procedures. Now should parents follow up with more coaching?

A week after the deadly elementary school attack in Newtown, CT, that has rocked the the nation, some parents say their kids remain oblivious to the attack—and the danger. 

Most teens and children are wrapped up in their own worlds. One mom of a middle-schooler told me instead of being worried about how the Newtown deaths would affect her daughter, she is more concerned that the girl is not aware enough of what took place.

And there is only so much the schools can do.

So this mom will spin out a scenario of danger and ask the daughter to think through how she might best respond. 

If you are a parent, are you doing the same kind of 'coaching' with your kids? Should parents be following up and expanding on the schools' safety procedures and lockdown drills? Or could that only cause more confusion for a kid about what to do in danger? Tell us in the comments section below.

Who Me? December 30, 2012 at 08:49 PM
Well...it does say Tewksbury Patch on my computer.... And you know the very best part...I even spelled Tewksbury correctly!
Ron Powell December 30, 2012 at 09:42 PM
Jon, I have heard that argument used a lot -- that the only purpose of guns is to kill. But here's the problem with that argument: there are 280 million guns in the US, and there were about 9,400 gun homicides last year. That means that 99.9997 percent of guns were not used to kill. There are 80 million gun owners in the US. That means that 99.998 percent of gun owners did not use their weapons to kill. It's not intellectually honest then to argue that the only purpose of guns is to kill when few guns are actually used to kill. The question then becomes what are the other uses of guns? By far, the most common reason for owning a gun is a deterrent against crime. Second is for target shooting, and third is for hunting. I guess you can argue that hunting is killing animals; however, I assume that you mean guns are devised to kill people. Let's be honest and agree that the vast majority (almost all) gunowners own their weapons for some other purpose than killing someone.
Ron Powell December 30, 2012 at 09:50 PM
Gun laws target African American men. Of the people currently in jail for owning an illegal weapon as their primary offense, 50 percent are African-American, 21 percent are Latino, and only 28 percent are white. That is 3,861 African-American men sitting in jail for no other reason than they were in possession of a weapon that they were not legally licensed to carry or registered to own.
Ron Powell December 30, 2012 at 10:11 PM
I second Jon's call to refrain from using words that are known to offend many people. I also think that Daniel's point is key here: there is no association between gun violence and Asperger's. And it would be very hard to determine if an applicant has a mental disorder that makes him or her an unacceptable risk to own a gun. Unless there is a prior criminal record, you would be relying on the applicant to self-report.
Ron Powell December 30, 2012 at 10:18 PM
In fairness to Who Me?, these regional stories tie up the feeds of all towns in the region. Who Me? is most likely seeing Tewksbury Patch at the top of his screen. It's a complaint that I've registered before with the Patch.
Iron Mike December 30, 2012 at 11:03 PM
TO: Ron Powell >> Gun laws target African American men. Thus one could conclude that guns laws – always proposed and passed by liberals – are racist. The first gun laws were designed to keep freed slaves from owning them. Yep, Democrats! Same bunch that formed the KKK and wrote Jim Crow laws. Revisionist History: A specialty of Modern Democrats. How many will ask for armed guards in their kids' schools, - and how many will rant about 'outlawing guns' – while sending their kids into undefended schools next month?
x December 30, 2012 at 11:53 PM
Ron, A course in logic... even high school level would do you some good. You would learn the distinction between cause and effect. Reverend E. Raleigh Pimperton III
Ron Powell December 31, 2012 at 12:39 AM
Ron Powell December 31, 2012 at 12:54 AM
It might be over-the-top to conclude that gunlaws are passed with racist motives in mind, but I think that it is at least fair to consider whether you want to pass laws that would be used to target otherwise law-abiding people disproportionately by race. Remember, these are people who did not commit any other crime other than possessing a weapon that was not licensed or registered.
Anna Bucciarelli January 09, 2013 at 05:16 PM
Gotta step in here, days late, I know, but Iron Mike, I have just been waiting for someone to insinuate, as the media did early on, that the primary cause of this guy's horrible act(s) was due to an off-shoot of the Autism spectrum known as Asergers(sp?) ... turns out that was not the case and I so strongly object to the assumption that an individual within the spectrum has a mental illness and is dangerous. Fact is these are usually very docile individuals who are in a world of their own and, mainly, their problem is with processing information/communication. If anything, they are usually only self abusive and that comes from their frustration at not being able to communicate ... please do not confuse mental illness with a disability that has not a thing to do with the mind, simply to do with (I think) how the electrodes within the system do not, for whatever unknown reason, allow the individual to think, act and speak as we do. Trust me, there is a great difference.
Anna Bucciarelli January 09, 2013 at 05:38 PM
My dear sir, Rev. E Raleigh Pinperton III, please refer to your comment of 12/30/12, in which you make reference to the special needs "industry" in MA. I am late to this post but your comment blistered my soul. Let me ask you, wise man that you are, if you had a child with an unusual, very special need, would you not seek help wherever you could? If it meant you needed to move Heaven and earth for services and all of your advocacy in your town/state still did not provide it, would you not go where you needed to go for the child's benefit? Please do not repeat figures you "heard" about, all education is expensive even for the individual child in a regular classroom, more than $10,000/year/child in some towns. Multiply that by the # of years an average child attends school and what figure do you come up with? It happens that MA was a pioneer in providing for spec. needs kids, that's true, and I take part of the responsibility for that since I and a number of parents of kids (who were unserved or underserved, in basement rooms of schools, hidden from the regular school population and given nothing but quiet busy work with not a thought to enhance their capabilities or prepare them to live in society, locking out the instincts and advice of parents) spent years in advocacy and writing of regulations for Chapter 766 until it was implemented in 1974, then PL94-142, the Federal SPED law took over and I worked on that as well. You, sir, should applaud this commonwealth, not berate
Anna Bucciarelli January 09, 2013 at 05:46 PM
Pinperton continued ... it for providing for all of its citizens, especially the less intellectually fortunate. I advise you to examine your soul and really ask yourself how you would handle a situation in which you find you need to bury (in your mind) a child you thought you had only to find that he/she has an entirely different way of learning that requires an individual plan (which, in my opinion, every school-aged child SHOULD have, rather than assume they all learn the same way). Be generous in your thoughts ... we are all God's children and all our brother's keepers. If you are truly a Rev., you should know that and not need me to lecture to you.
Joe Lynch January 09, 2013 at 06:17 PM
ANNA..........even those who represent themselves as "preachers" need to be lectured once in a while by the folks they preach to. Loved your passionate and well thought through response. Keep up the terrific work you and others do on behalf of kids who need you. Joe Lynch Somerville, MA
fred January 09, 2013 at 06:51 PM
Great posts Anna. Old Snarky was starting to get to you in earlier post. You are one special lady. Snarky, layoff Anna, she's a good girl.
Anna Bucciarelli January 09, 2013 at 09:41 PM
Reverend ... put a sock in it. You don't know what you're talking about. Public schools are "free" to all children, paid for by our taxes. I would sincerely like to look at your statistical facts re: the # of children being served who are not MA residents to begin with. Also, the likes of me need to be what you call self serving since the likes of you would have us all in a closet with our kids. I take umbrage at your reference to me as a screamer, I am anything but, I work with the system and the powers who can affect change and when I see injustice, I work for justice and change, and further, I am highly respected in the legislative circles that have an interest in providing equal education for all children. I suggest you not rely on hearsay and that you think before you speak, sir, and consider your words ant to whom you make inappropriate remarks.
x January 09, 2013 at 11:38 PM
Anna writes, "...and further, I am highly respected in the legislative circles..." That's all that counts. Carry on, Anna. Reverend E. Raleigh Pimperton III
x January 09, 2013 at 11:47 PM
Anna, Your self-serving tirade misses the point. Nowhere did I suggest these children should not be treated with the best of care. I suggested that providing this treatment 'free' in Massachusetts has resulted in our state becoming a magnet for parents who know a bargain when they see one. Without financial needs testing we can expect the influx to continue. Free products or services tend to have large demand. Finally 'special needs' has become an industry in the Commonwealth. 'Advocates' like yourself scream at any criticism of industry practices or the growing list of perceived rights, wants and 'needs.' Reverend E. Raleigh Pimperton III
Anna Bucciarelli January 10, 2013 at 12:16 AM
To the question of this post ... yes, discussion should take place with children, there's no hiding the situation and I feel the only way to discuss this with children is to simply assure them that what happened was not a thing that happens in any ordinary day or time, that the incident was a phenomenon and in no way can they expect a repeat performance of such activity. I don't necessarily know that to be fact but it seems to me the only comfort to give child. We all hope it doesn't happen again so why not pass on such hopeful thoughts. I cannot imagine the fear that kids face after such an incident but I bet it's monumental and my goal would be to help them to feel as safe as possible. Not sure I really know how to do that, but these are my thoughts on the matter.
Anna Bucciarelli January 10, 2013 at 12:22 AM
You are a fool with nothing but foolish comments because you cannot produce facts.
Andrew Sylvia (Editor) January 10, 2013 at 02:15 AM
Hey folks, calm down.
Donald Mei January 10, 2013 at 04:05 AM
John, You can't "modify the sear pin". First, there is no such thing as a sear pin. Second, when the AR15 mechanism was designed it was designed explicitly to make it difficult to convert full auto. Second, converting a semi-auto gun to full auto is illegal. Third, you clearly know nothing about firearms. Fourth, the AR15 is not the M16. Different fire control parts and a different receiver make it a different gun with very different capabilities.
Tyler Jozefowicz January 10, 2013 at 04:15 AM
paul: why are you even writing this stupidity? Editor: delete this a personal attack; nothing has been added to the subject. the whole remark is a personal insult, put down.
Tyler Jozefowicz January 10, 2013 at 04:20 AM
Rev: Fifth Commandment- "Thou shalt not kill" , no ifs , ands, or buts. Right from the tablet, my man. Praise the Lord. The Mormons, Quakers, Conscientious Objectors and the Amish are the only ones that had it right. Jesus was a pacifist, turn the other cheek stuff, and all Reverends don't join the infantry.
Anna Bucciarelli January 10, 2013 at 11:33 AM
Anna Bucciarelli January 10, 2013 at 11:50 AM
You're right Andrew ... I apologize to you for my temper, but not at all to the "man of the cloth".
fred January 10, 2013 at 11:59 AM
And I apologize to the rev. Your post are great. The old snarky I was refering to was my favorite, Dianna. Anna, the rev is good and makes all the sense in the world.
x January 10, 2013 at 12:41 PM
Thank you Fred. It gets rather lonely here at Our Lady of Perpetual Misery. Anna cannot help herself. Being an "advocate" makes It is difficult to have a rational discourse. If you only have a hammer, everything looks like a nail. Your spiritual advisor, Reverend E. Raleigh Pimperton III
Anna Bucciarelli January 10, 2013 at 01:47 PM
Would like to know, seriously, what you stand for. Your comments, on this post and many others, express nothing but disdain and bitching.
Tyler Jozefowicz January 10, 2013 at 04:52 PM
Mike: the part I don't understand is the "well-regulated Militia" part, which is a citizen military force or army. Any organized military forces or armies in Middlesex County. Whose the General? When do they meet for training?
Anna Bucciarelli January 10, 2013 at 06:04 PM
Mike G. ......... Tried and failed!


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